I know... I know... People will read my blogs, and dismiss my rantings because they sound like they're written by an angry black woman. And they would be right. I AM an angry black woman. No apologies.
There's a saying: 'Don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes."
But, I have to admit - I also find a certain amount of humor and irony in that fact as well, since half my family is white. My step-mother is White. My Aunt is White. My nephews are half-white, my son is mixed, my sisters are white.... I would have additional Aunts and Uncles who are white, except they disowned my step-mother as soon as she married my dad. So, I've never met them.
I grew up in an all-white neighborhood, right down the street from the first black Miss America - Vanessa Williams. We went to all-white schools together, and endured the disdain of our neighbors together. One family in our neighborhood was so disappointed by our lack of fear, and having the audacity to live where we lived -and be happy about it - that they burned a cross on our lawn.
Why am I telling you all of this? Because I want to let you know that while I do harbor anger and resentment that (on some issues) time has stood still, it's not coming from a purely racist or ignorant stance.
It's coming from frustration that there's still a certain segment of our society for which the band marches on, and they're 'allowed' to live in peace and harmony - yet the rest of us are expected to somehow justify our existence - constantly.
Isn't it bad enough that I have to warn my son about the strange guy on the corner who likes to give candy to kids, but I also gotta warn him about how to react WHEN not IF he's called a 'nigger'?!
Why do we still live in a society which says that there are some (people) who deserve to fulfill their dreams, but ours still get 'deferred'?
And, I'm not just talking about race. I'm not even referring to economic class, I'm talking about the general attitudes and stereotypes one group likes to place other groups in, just to make themselves feel better.
How they cloak themselves in philanthropy, and volunteerism and call it a day.... Whatever happened to fairness, equality and the freedom of pursuit of happiness? What happened to those?!